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With the tech age upon us so aggressively, most people cannot help but to conform to the antics of living life virtually and might I say: the sound of click clack, pose for a selfie!
Taking a selfie isn’t harmful per say but what about meeting some one you do not know, giving and sharing information freely and worse actually believing what people say over the internet? Now, that is kinda creepy. What ever happened to allowing fate to find your mate and moreover checking out a person with both eyes open as well as getting to know their family before you say I love you and close the deal.
You are putting your life in danger if you do not take the necessary precautions while dating or getting to know someone online v.s face to face contact. What is really going on in our minds and lives that we cannot find the time to meet people in person anymore? Dating online is like unto eating at a fast food restaurant, you place an order and then after waiting a few seconds you pick up your order curbside. Do we need to have a special course in high school or even at the college level on online dating? We just might have to, if more people keep getting catfished!
We have some really gruesome cases of emotional abuse and false impersonations that their is actually a widely popular show named; “Catfish: The TV Show” which is a docu-series television series airing on MTVabout the truths and lies of online dating. Created by Nev Schulman, with Max Joseph as a co-host.
Having a show like Catfish really blew open the dangers of online dating and just how the the new age phenomenon has impacted the life of so many people.
To truly find out if you are ready for dating of any kind, try asking yourself: who am I? Do I love who I am? Do I need someone to tell me that I am loved? If you cannot answer those questions then you are not ready to date! If you can answer those questions, you must be aware that you attract who you desire in your life. Get some words of wisdom from a trusted source like your parents, a pastor, counselor etc… Tell someone how you feel and if you know how, pray about your decision to date or court someone. It is the most important decision you will ever make in your entire life!
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Ferguson, MO has become yet another place where we must stop and check our emotions at the door and face the real issues that caused this tragedy right in our backyard! Michael Brown is not only a young black male that has been gunned down in cold blood on the street but he is also the son of a single mother as well a man we know nothing about! In her own words, the mother of Michael Brown proclaimed how she fought hard just to get him to graduate high school. Is there nothing wrong with that statement? Yes, there is! She should not have to have it that hard to get her own child to see the value in an education and further becoming an upright citizen that has respect for the law. Once again the village has failed yet another child. Why did not only the people in Ferguson,MO but the entire United Stated of America rally concerning the poor decisions made by our elected officials to bail out those large companies that rob us blind daily, or the current minimum wages across the most powerful nation in the world, and lately the healthcare reform bill that does not help the unemployed soul one bit! Why don’t we rally about the issues that affect all of us: Blacks,Whites, Hispanics,Asians, Indians [all nationalities]? No, we can’t see past our ignorance and pride long enough to help prevent tragedies like the one in Ferguson, Florida and many other unlawful acts occurring in our schools, businesses and even in our homes. We need to look at the administration of our homes,so that we can plan to have families instead of just having children out of wedlock, and further teach our children to respect other humans and the law under which they live and work. Somewhere in that process we can also have public servants trained to respect their duty and the citizens they serve regardless of nationality and economical status. As we watch the people of Ferguson, Mo lament over the killing of Michael Brown, we must also lament ourselves over how we too have neglected our own children by substituting ourselves with material objects and grandiose thoughts and ideas. We must not only now, grieve the loss of another young person, but also grieve the rapid and continuous decline of our nation, whom at this time is no longer under God but on its on self seeking course headed for destruction.
You may be thinking of course time is an issue, well I can ask as well, an issue for whom? You see we have become so SELF driven and time orientated that in fact we have lost control of time and thus waste every bit of time, and then the next cycle begins for another 24 hours if we make it there. Since time is such an issue how then can we truly make the most of it. The answer is simply, stop counting the time! We should become discipled that just wake up grateful and do what we are mean to do and not worry about what we didn’t’ get accomplished because this is were we try to stretch time and get frustrated when we don’t get things done in the time we want. We are too demanding of time. Time is our friend! We didn’t ask for it, nor quite frankly so we understand well. We are like robots now. Time is everything so we do things according to time and not because we need to. How gullible are we? It really seems like time is not the real issue we are!
Know that time is truly precious and you are precious in God’s sight! You have a divine marching order to live out His plan for your life. This means that you do not have time for foolish thoughts, talk and actions! You see, there are so many ways that you can help people, and the best way is by helping yourself. I know, your thinking that’s not helping another, right? Well, look at it this way, once you find the right path and get on it, and you see results then this should enable others to want to find out what you are doing to get those same results. Now, this is where it can get sticky, because most people want the results and they don’t want to do the hard work! This is where you get to say, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not on your own understanding and He will direct your path”-Prov. 3:5-6. You are not the author and finisher of anyone’s faith! You have to answer to the same God, thus you can only do what you can in this body and let God find, lead and guide his people His way. We are simply to be, “like Christ” to them and follow after his example. All of the fanfare is fake and hence will deceive many into thinking that you are perfect and you are simply saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus. You are your brother’s keeper when you extend the right arm of fellowship and non-judgment you choose to not to compromise your own faith just to be nice to everyone. Be obedient, love God’s law of love and show love to any and everyone, even your enemies! Now, this is the real test of a “believer”; when you love those who have wronged you. Loving people isn’t condoning evil, but simply loving them in spite of their evil deeds. Trust and believe that God will take care of and repay all for the evil that they commit in this life. Your role is simple to love God; fear Him and give Him glory!
Realizing what our roles are is the key to not having to do over life situations. When we fully understand that we are here for a specified time and that we have a set task to do, we allow ourselves to stay focused on the task at hand. The most difficult challenge in life appears to be the inability to say “no”. How and why this is, one cannot really attribute to a set behavior pattern other than the need to please others and not yourselves. You see, when you try to please others and not yourselves you are not really pleasing anyone at all. This is because, when you try to please some even though you know they are undeserving and possess a frail perception of life, then you are enabling that person in their adverse trend of thought which can potentially be life threatening. This mechanism like a domino effect, once you begin the pattern you cannot change it, until the course is done. You have thus given a green light to a very negative flow of life and at times it is just too late for an intervention. Hence, it is crucial that we be aware of enabling any form of wrong doing right when the thought arises and say an emphatic “no” to wrong thinking and “yes” to a person who accepts responsibility for they actions and learns to intervene on their own behalf.
I say money is a common-denominator because it is! Most people or all people need money to facilitate life’s necessities, and thrive for the most part at an optimal level of existence, because man has put a price on life’s simplest treasure’s sadly such as good health. Therefore, in today’s world we need money to basically be alive and well, or so we think. We have been brain washed to thinking that without money and now the new trend “fame” we are nothing. Fame is the new currency now. The average person thinks, “If I can just get my 15 minutes of fame, I can capitalize on it and be set for life”. We have to notice in history that the real wealthy people were apart of a system that kept all of the wealth in the family, and thus were trained to be frugal. In the American society people are not trained to secure their wealth and thus end up losing it all,very swiftly. A person does not need money to free, because money cannot buy freedom. Freedom is a state of mind that exudes contentment and the ability to live without limitations. Why do the rich and famous exude anger, and discontent? It’s because they are not free! Wealth comes after one knows that they are free. Money is a common denominator that glues us to the tangible rewards of living in this life, and this life only. Attracting wealth begins in the mind, the real task is having the patience it takes to realize that you already are wealthy!